You just summarized my last relationship, and you've enriched my perspective about the "selfless" nature of the beautiful woman I shared a chapter of my life with. I wish I could share this with her; however, we've agreed not to talk to each other for a bit haha :)
I'm so grateful. Thanks for deepening my understanding of what a healthy female's soul should be like.
Thank you for sharing how this essay felt to you and how you have seen this dynamic/archetypal trauma signature move through your former beloved. It is sad how many of us women are trapped in this survival strategy, unable to fully sing our deepest song into the world—and how this behavior is often rewarded by the culture, which creates a fairly insidious feedback loop.
Thank you for your receptivity to my writing; having a fellow soul friend on the path means a lot.
Tara Rae — Another fine piece of writing. I wanted to write another long response because you bring up so many good points that I’d like to acknowledge. And, unfortunately, I simply don’t have time as I’m packing. I’d love to reconnect via Substack in January including via the chat feature as I believe you raise important questions about mental health as well as our culture, at large.
You impress me as being ‘wise beyond your years’ — this makes me hopeful for the future. Wow! I didn’t have that presence of mind when I was younger. I was just in constant survival mode running on self preservation instinct. There’s such a need for healers in this world to bring light to what’s happening on a global scale. I mourn the loss of what I used to feel was certain.
I feel we’re living on shaky ground as if the whole earth could collapse beneath us all. And sometimes it feels like much more than my heart can bear. I want to remain hopeful for brighter days ☀️ and I think it’s important to be mindful of the dark shadow energy that has been emerging. Important to stay positive and also conscious or aware. Things are not always as they appear. I’m still trying to master the art of presence and respect — learning how when it’s time to speak or speak up, learning it’s more appropriate to listen. It’s a balancing act that I haven’t quite mastered — the dance of intimacy and connection. Honoring myself. Honoring others.
I believe in supporting what offers value not only to me, but also other women. This isn’t an easy path for many of us. I plan to offer patronage next year once I come back as I support your efforts as I believe in your work. It feels like nourishment for the soul. I’ve already learned so much by reading your pieces.
I’ve started to connect the dots with friendships and earlier childhood experiences. I wasn’t clear on the connection. And after journaling for a while, I figure it out. Sometimes you can love someone, but also know that it’s not the right relationship for you. My needs weren’t being met. I wasn’t being respected, valued or supported in a way that I deserve. I am letting go and mourning a relationship that no longer served me, that never really did serve me. And I couldn’t see it at the time. Although it was difficult — it was time to move on. I feel a sense of relief and closure.
I wish you the best during the holiday season. I look forward to reading more as you develop your new book. Thank you.
I appreciate your responses to my writing a lot. Thank you. I am glad that my writing is supportive to you, and your desire to support me in my work is met with a lot of gratitude!
"I feel we’re living on shaky ground as if the whole earth could collapse beneath us all. And sometimes it feels like much more than my heart can bear. I want to remain hopeful for brighter days ☀️ and I think it’s important to be mindful of the dark shadow energy that has been emerging. Important to stay positive and also conscious or aware. Things are not always as they appear. I’m still trying to master the art of presence and respect — learning how when it’s time to speak or speak up, learning it’s more appropriate to listen. It’s a balancing act that I haven’t quite mastered — the dance of intimacy and connection. Honoring myself. Honoring others." ---- Beautifully written.
I am glad to know you stood up for yourself in this recent closure of a friendship. Each one of us women, standing in our truth and power, opens up channels for us all to do so.
Curious where you are moving too! I look forward to reconnecting after the holidays, and thank you for the encouragement with my book.
What a piece.
You just summarized my last relationship, and you've enriched my perspective about the "selfless" nature of the beautiful woman I shared a chapter of my life with. I wish I could share this with her; however, we've agreed not to talk to each other for a bit haha :)
I'm so grateful. Thanks for deepening my understanding of what a healthy female's soul should be like.
On my way to my Sacred Masculine self.
Thanks
Cristiano
Cristiano,
Thank you for sharing how this essay felt to you and how you have seen this dynamic/archetypal trauma signature move through your former beloved. It is sad how many of us women are trapped in this survival strategy, unable to fully sing our deepest song into the world—and how this behavior is often rewarded by the culture, which creates a fairly insidious feedback loop.
Thank you for your receptivity to my writing; having a fellow soul friend on the path means a lot.
With heart,
Tara
Tara Rae — Another fine piece of writing. I wanted to write another long response because you bring up so many good points that I’d like to acknowledge. And, unfortunately, I simply don’t have time as I’m packing. I’d love to reconnect via Substack in January including via the chat feature as I believe you raise important questions about mental health as well as our culture, at large.
You impress me as being ‘wise beyond your years’ — this makes me hopeful for the future. Wow! I didn’t have that presence of mind when I was younger. I was just in constant survival mode running on self preservation instinct. There’s such a need for healers in this world to bring light to what’s happening on a global scale. I mourn the loss of what I used to feel was certain.
I feel we’re living on shaky ground as if the whole earth could collapse beneath us all. And sometimes it feels like much more than my heart can bear. I want to remain hopeful for brighter days ☀️ and I think it’s important to be mindful of the dark shadow energy that has been emerging. Important to stay positive and also conscious or aware. Things are not always as they appear. I’m still trying to master the art of presence and respect — learning how when it’s time to speak or speak up, learning it’s more appropriate to listen. It’s a balancing act that I haven’t quite mastered — the dance of intimacy and connection. Honoring myself. Honoring others.
I believe in supporting what offers value not only to me, but also other women. This isn’t an easy path for many of us. I plan to offer patronage next year once I come back as I support your efforts as I believe in your work. It feels like nourishment for the soul. I’ve already learned so much by reading your pieces.
I’ve started to connect the dots with friendships and earlier childhood experiences. I wasn’t clear on the connection. And after journaling for a while, I figure it out. Sometimes you can love someone, but also know that it’s not the right relationship for you. My needs weren’t being met. I wasn’t being respected, valued or supported in a way that I deserve. I am letting go and mourning a relationship that no longer served me, that never really did serve me. And I couldn’t see it at the time. Although it was difficult — it was time to move on. I feel a sense of relief and closure.
I wish you the best during the holiday season. I look forward to reading more as you develop your new book. Thank you.
Anna,
I appreciate your responses to my writing a lot. Thank you. I am glad that my writing is supportive to you, and your desire to support me in my work is met with a lot of gratitude!
"I feel we’re living on shaky ground as if the whole earth could collapse beneath us all. And sometimes it feels like much more than my heart can bear. I want to remain hopeful for brighter days ☀️ and I think it’s important to be mindful of the dark shadow energy that has been emerging. Important to stay positive and also conscious or aware. Things are not always as they appear. I’m still trying to master the art of presence and respect — learning how when it’s time to speak or speak up, learning it’s more appropriate to listen. It’s a balancing act that I haven’t quite mastered — the dance of intimacy and connection. Honoring myself. Honoring others." ---- Beautifully written.
I am glad to know you stood up for yourself in this recent closure of a friendship. Each one of us women, standing in our truth and power, opens up channels for us all to do so.
Curious where you are moving too! I look forward to reconnecting after the holidays, and thank you for the encouragement with my book.
With care,
Tara Rae